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Pippi said that, and I try as much as I can to live by these words. Especially at this moment, as I am looking into dealing with one of the biggest challenges I have ever dealt with before. Financially things are definitely not going as well as they should and I am trying all I can, to figure out a solution to the problem. Or challenge. I better stick to the word challenge – within the coaching world it is a lot better to call it that instead of a problem. Words have a deeper impact on us then we think, so the way we speak about something plays a big part in how we react to the situation or approach something. Though most of it is unconsciously and therefore hard to detect, on less you really examine yourself and the words you choose. I just found a job that I really want, and I know that I am going to apply for it, but since I do not live up to everything they want a 100%, I kind of doubt that I will get it. Which is definitely not the way to approach it, so I have to work on that part before applying. Somehow I think they can just smell it or read it between the lines or something; “She is not confident that she can do the job – we are not hiring her!”.
How can I get a job if I don’t even believe that I can do it, or at least learn to do it, myself?
A couple of years ago, I read the book “The Happiness Project” by Gretchen Rubin. She found that, though she was quite satisfied with her life, there were still some areas of her life that could be improved. So she decided to focus her attention on a new subject each month for a year. I thought that it would be nice to do the same, and it is very much in alignment with the coaching course I am taking.
Throw out or give away anything that I don’t use. Prepare moving back to Aarhus, by only keeping things that I truly like and has a special value to me. This will create more space for things that are important to me, and create a beautiful environment, where I am not bothered by lack of space or ugly things that stops me from enjoying being in my room. Furthermore I believe that, by surrounding yourself with beautiful nice things, you get more easily inspired to use your creativity.
Don’t spend money on anything besides food and other essentials like tooth paste or shampoo. So no clothes, books and so on. The reason for this is that I want to pay off my debt as fast as possible. And by getting into the habit of not spending money on things I don’t need, I hope that this will keep me from spending more money then I should. This does not mean I am not allowed to buy books or clothes ever again, it just means that this will hopefully make me think twice before purchasing anything that I really don’t have any use for, but only things that will benefit me or bring me true joy.
Another reason is, I think that I(and a lot of other people) buy way to many things, that we just end up throwing out or leave around the house, which just adds to this buy-and throw away world that we seem to have created. I do my best not to contribute too much to that as it is, but this month my focus will be on it even more.
Yoga, meditation, manifestations, spent time outside, health. This is to avoid winter depression, which I guess we all kind of get hit by once or twice during the winter time. I furthermore wish to improve my health, by eating less animal products (I am already a vegetarian) and eat much more vegetables then I already do. I will also not eat candy/chips, drink alcohol or drink coffee. I will try to avoid sugar in general as well.
This month’s focus will be spending time with friends and family. Buying presents that is carefully picked out, spend time gift wrapping the presents in a personal and beautiful way and on making Christmas decorations and cookies for friends and family. All this in the company of loved ones. This month I will also spend a lot of time on creative things like knitting, sewing, writing, drawing and so on.
“Where attention goes, energy flows” – James Redfield.
I spend a wonderful day yesterday with my family, and I am glad I went though I still have a very annoying cold. Today seems to be a rainy day, so I will spend the day indoors.
When I graduated last year I was feeling many different things. Happy, relieved, sad, scared and confused. It was scary to enter a whole new world where nothing was decided and everything could happy, but at the same time I was relieved that I had no more exams to attend, no more papers to write… But I must admit that sometimes I miss it, and consider going back to university to do another degree. However it is probably for the best that I don´t. I know that what I miss is the social aspect of it and the learning part of it. I love learning new things. I love write clever (well not always clever) thoughts in my notebooks, and I loved researching and preparing for the writing of another paper. But fortunately I can do that without going back to university. The other day I signed up for at course through coursera, called Modern & Contemporary American Poetry, and started yesterday. Though I never did read a lot of poetry, I am looking forward to learn more about a topic which is so unfamiliar to me, though not totally foreign. So that is how I will be spending my sunday, in between writing a couple of job applications and reading Terry Pratchett´s “The Wee Tree Men”.
I heard about a Youtube serie a while ago from this blog. However, despite it being an interpretation of my favorite book Pride and Prejudice I was sure that it would be awful, and definitely not a tribute to the book(though I had no reason to believe it to be, because I normally share an almost similar taste in books and movies as the blogger who recommended it. I am just very hard to please when it comes to my favorite author and kind of stubborn I guess). But it turned out to be funny and as true to the book as is possible when doing an interpretation set in 2012. I have been sick the last couple of days, so that gave me the perfect opportunity to start watching the serie, and I am glad that I did. The weather has been warm all week, but I haven’t been able to spend as much time outdoors as I wanted to because of a bad cold, so I am hoping it will pass soon and in the meanwhile I will sleep, watch The Lizzie Bennet Diaries and read some of the books I just brought home from the library.
Also I am trying to learn how to French braid, but I not very good at it. However if there is something I have learned this summer, it is that everything takes practice, nobody is good at something the first time they try it. It is kind of amazing that I should take me 30 years to learn that, but there you go…
Hope you are all enjoying the weekend. Hopefully I will feel better tomorrow where I am going on a family outing to the north part of Denmark.